Monday, October 21, 2013

A note to Sam from Dad

Sweet and gentle Sam—my “lil’ guy”:  

From the moment I first saw you I knew you were someone special.  I knew you would have an impact on me and the rest of the world that we would feel forever. 

From day one you were a beacon of sunshine and energy so powerful that I always felt safe around you, and I was comforted by the knowledge that the world would benefit from your presence and the gifts you would share.  I didn't know at the time what those gifts would be and I couldn't know at the time how you would share those gifts but the magic was there.  Everyone around you could feel it.

Sweet and gentle Sam—your time with us was far too short; but I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the time you did give us.  In your lifetime you taught me many things:  You taught me that a small, quiet voice could have an enormous impact on people; you taught me that being kind and gentle was far more powerful than a booming voice or a commanding presence; you taught me that a smile and an infectious laugh could make everything seem better;  you taught me what real courage is and showed me how to face obstacles far greater than any of us should ever have to endure; you taught me patience and how to slow down and take note of things that really matter in life; you taught me what dignity is and how to uphold it; and you taught me how to find Hope in the darkest of tunnels. 

Sweet and gentle Sam—most of all you taught me about Love, what it really is and what it can do for people.  You taught me how deeply you can feel something utterly beautiful in another human being.  You taught me that because things can change in the blink of an eye you have to give each day all the Love you can to the people you care most about.

Sweet and gentle Sam—you were my very best friend, my playmate and my comedic confidant.  We laughed at each other’s jokes and shared countless hours of joy in an imaginary wonderland, where everything seemed perfect as long as we had each other.  I am so grateful we had that time together. You were my “lil’ guy” but you were a giant in the Love and Joy you brought to the world.  I promise that I will always remember the things you taught me.  And I will always, always Love You.


A private family service is being held for Sam tomorrow. Starting tomorrow evening we will be sitting Shiva at our house in Grover Beach. Contact Rabbi Linda at Congregation Beth David for more information (544-0760).  We will be planning a more public memorial service within the next month or so to afford Sam's loving community an opportunity to mourn and celebrate as well. We are so appreciative of your love and support.


  1. Sending love and prayers to your beautiful family. Such a beautiful letter to Sammy, John. Thank you for sharing it!

  2. If Sam is your comedic confidant then he is about to infect another whole galaxy of souls with your angular humor. Beautiful letter John, we all feel blessed to have spent time with dear Sam.

  3. No words .... just no words .....

    May you be comforted during this awful time. I found shiva to be a time of equal sorrow and shared laughter over rich and dear memories. Sending you love from New York. Though you do not know us, we are there for you in thought, prayer and tears.

  4. Beautiful words for a beautiful boy. My heart breaks for your loss and the depth of your love. Sam is so blessed to have you for his Dad forever.